Boss B*tch Mentality Is Ruining Our Culture
Boss B*tch Mentality Is Ruining Our Culture
What qualities and mindset are needed to succeed in entrepreneurship?
Not everyone is meant to be an entrepreneur. A few years ago, entrepreneurship was glamorized, with people posting on Instagram about living the “laptop lifestyle” from exotic places like Thailand or the Maldives. But it’s not all like that. Real entrepreneurship requires hard work, tenacity, and a lot of sacrifices, especially if you’re serious about making money. There are plenty of influencers online who create content but can’t afford their own lunch—that’s not real entrepreneurship.
It’s perfectly fine if entrepreneurship isn’t for you. If you’re not driven to build a legacy, focus on being a good person and making the most of your potential. Whether or not you're an entrepreneur, living fully matters most.
If someone feels something’s missing in their nine-to-five job, they might want to work part-time on their own venture. As Jim Rohn said, “Work full-time on your job and part-time on your fortune.” That’s how I started my business. If you have an idea, don’t let life pass you by without pursuing it. Les Brown said, “The richest place is the cemetery” because so many people die without realizing their dreams, businesses, or stories.
I come from an immigrant family and had to work hard for what I have. But your legacy doesn’t have to look like mine. It could mean being a stay-at-home parent or a job that brings you joy, like driving for Uber. We still live in a culture of comparison, though it’s improved a bit since COVID. Live your rich life—whatever makes you happy and fulfilled—and don’t compare yourself to others. That’s where the trouble starts.
What habits build discipline and drive personal growth?
It's a process, and anyone should know that personal growth is ongoing. It’s about being true to yourself—knowing your values and recognizing when you’re truly ready for change. Often, people reach that point when they hit a high level of pain. Sometimes, it’s only when the pain outweighs the effort needed to improve that we take action.
Be kind to yourself. You have to be your own biggest fan and cheerleader, especially if you don’t have a lot of external support. I literally talk to myself, checking in throughout the day to see what I need to stay positive and get through. I have a background in bodybuilding, competing in bikini competitions, which taught me the importance of discipline. The little things you do every day build up to significant results, but it’s not about being robotic. It’s about knowing that you’re working toward the best version of yourself.
I didn’t come from wealth; I had to fight for everything. People see Instagram and might think everything looks perfect, but I’ve invested heavily in self-development, both financially and in terms of time. I’m always reading, listening to podcasts, and putting in the work.
For high-functioning entrepreneurs, many facets contribute to success, and for me, health is the foundation. I prioritize my health because when you feel good physically, it positively impacts your mental, emotional, and spiritual state. Discipline is essential, and I’ve learned the most about it through health and bodybuilding. What you put in your body, how you take care of yourself—these are the first steps toward achieving anything meaningful.
How can business owners start small to build a mindset for success?
First, listen to the Gathering Kings podcast! But beyond that, I believe there are no excuses in life. Excuses don’t add value to any part of your life, and anything worthwhile requires personal development. At just 12 years old, I saved up my money to attend a Tony Robbins seminar. If I could do that at such a young age, anyone can start with something small to shift their mindset.
I didn’t come from a family of entrepreneurs—I was on my own path and journey. For me, it’s about starting small. Today, we have endless resources at our fingertips. Back then, it was just Encyclopedia Britannica. Now, we have YouTube, TikTok, and an entire world of knowledge on our phones. But you have to be disciplined about where you spend your time online. Invest in learning about things that interest you, and focus on becoming the very best at what you do.
How can business owners uphold values?
I set high standards, knowing I won’t be everyone’s "cup of tea." Staying true to your morals and values is essential. I only work with clients who demand 100% from themselves. No matter how good the money or environment is, you have to align with your values as a person, an entrepreneur, and a business. If a project doesn’t fit your values, it’s better to leave it. The long-term pain of working with the wrong people or companies isn’t worth it.
Intuition is crucial in business. If something feels wrong, trust your gut. Developing a strong sense of intuition takes time, effort, and experience working with many different people. It’s like setting high standards in any area of life—you wouldn’t settle for low quality in important things. The same goes for your business: set a high moral compass and maintain it.
As an experienced entrepreneur, I charge what I do for a reason. It reflects my skills, experience, and what I’ve built. If people don’t align with that, it’s okay—it wasn’t meant for them. I’m fortunate to work with incredible entrepreneurs and global brands, but I always stay true to my values. If something doesn’t align, I’m comfortable walking away.
How can business owners use intuition to choose aligned clients?
It comes down to intuition and observing how a person or company shows up. At the end of the day, we can make anyone look like a million dollars, which is why I’m selective about who I brand. I know my skill set and what I can deliver, so I only want to work with companies or brands that align with my values.
It’s about trusting my gut—asking whether I truly want to work with a company focused on the wrong things. I’m also spiritual and believe the universe brings the right opportunities at the right time. Sometimes it’s tempting to stray from your values, but staying true brings better opportunities in the long run. Be good, be kind, have empathy, and do good work. That’s all you need to remember.
Why is knowing your worth crucial for growing a business?
When I was younger, I often over-delivered for clients who didn’t appreciate it. It’s essential to know the value of what you deliver and ensure you’re paid for your time. You wouldn’t go into a restaurant, order everything, and leave without paying. Working for free is often a mistake, though sometimes it’s necessary to build your reputation.
It’s a fine line—you need to do some free work to get your name out there, but it shouldn’t be a habit. If I were starting in today’s environment, I’d be relentless—making calls, knocking on doors, and building character. Don’t take “no” for an answer, and most importantly, don’t give up.
*This interview has been edited and condensed for clarity.*
