Get Unstuck and Change Your Life
Get Unstuck & Change Your Life
What do I do when nothing seems to be working? How do I change my life?
I've kept journals since I was age 22. I was writing down ‘Where did I screw up?’ My wife one day came in and said, “If what you're doing isn't working, why don't you do the opposite?” I was making 250 - 300,000 a month. That all went away in a matter of months. I thought, isn't that interesting?
So I created a pyramid as to what I was focusing on from top to bottom and realized I spent most of my time on the things I cared for the least and the least amount of time on the things I cared for the most. So I flipped it over, inverted that pyramid, and said, “I'm gonna focus my time on this and I don't care if I stay broke.”
Dramatic changes happen, made three times as much money in the next six months, and worked significantly less. I had a blinding flash of the obvious. It's not the moving pieces necessarily. Content and process are important. It's what we call the BBR formula. Belief drives behavior. Behavior drives results.
There's a piece missing. The mindset is missing. I had defined mindset as what you hold to be true about yourself, those around you, and the world around you. If you hold to be true that this is negative, then of course it's negative.
Focus on one thing and one thing only. Focus on changing your mindset to commiserate with the goals, vision, values, and principles that you have.
We all want one thing; we want results. Doesn't matter what you want, it's all the results. Belief drives behavior, behavior drives results.
What formula can assess the quality of life as a business owner?
When I first started looking at my life to revamp it, I put myself through V2GP2. I made up this formula: vision, values, goals, principle, and price.
What's your vision? What are your values? What are your goals? What are your principles? What price are you willing to pay?
So we only have two choices. Either you minimize your wants or you maximize your skill. You can't have it both ways. You can't maximize your wants and minimize your skills. Either you maximize your skill to match your wants or you reduce your wants to your skill level.
*This interview has been edited and condensed for clarity.*
